As a rule, it is his parents who make a person unhappy. Why? Because they were unhappy themselves. And this happens from generation to generation. The chain has closed. Until one solves the problem in the family.
But back to the unhappy people. Imagine two people who have a child. A young or already mature family. Of which one is emotionally traumatized by his parents. The traumatized, unhappy parent sincerely believes that he will be healed in the loving family he created. But no. Because when a person becomes a parent himself, THEY DON’T OWE HIM, BUT HE SHOULD. On a subconscious level, he wants his partner, no matter a man or a woman, to replace his parent. And he loved him with the unconditional love unique to parents. Makes demands, manipulates, scandalizes, tantrums, etc. But his partner can’t love him and take care of him like his father or mother does. Because he also needs care and affection.
Some women are still ready to play the role of mom for their men, but you will absolutely not find men in the Russian Federation who are ready to replace the father of their woman.
Our family relations are a mess. On the one hand, we have patriarchy. But you will hardly find men, with rare exceptions, who are willing to take responsibility for securing resources and finances for their wife and children. A rarity among men who are ready to answer take responsibility for your words, keep your promises, and take responsibility for your words and actions.
On the other hand, the voices of feminists are increasingly being heard in our society.
A woman in our society should be beautiful and well-groomed, educated, with real estate, healthy, she should be able to do everything in bed, etc. I note that there are no requirements for men in our society, as there are none.
Because some of the girls are smarter and more efficient at choosing a mate already in educational institutions. This roughly occurs between the ages of 17 and 25. They try to choose who is better. Their criteria are simple:
1) what weight and influence does a young man have in their society (his popularity)
2) what family is he from (income level and status)
3) is he healthy, does he have bad habits and addictions, and how good-looking the guy is.
4) their talents or academic performance in the community in which they live.
That is how they select their partners. Of course, men think they are choosing a lifelong companion, but in reality, they are being chosen.
Younger women are not yet ready to compete with these men. They sincerely believe that their future is bright and that it is up to men to pursue them, rather than the other way around. It is only when they reach their thirties that they fully comprehend the horror and reality of the situation. By then, these women are ready to settle for anyone, even a drunk or an addict, simply to avoid becoming old maids.
I’ve noticed that women in Russia are very afraid of being single. They have a very strong sexual attachment to their man. The root cause of this is well described in the Bible. In the part where God Yahweh cursed Eve for eating the fruit of knowledge and giving it to Adam to eat, the essence of the curse was that Eve and all her daughters would give birth in pain and long for their husbands. God wanted women to be more dependent on their men, with whom they would «lie down». That’s why it’s bad for women to be alone and they need a man to feel happy, even if it’s just anyone. It’s better to be with someone than to be alone. This is why many women forgive cheating, endure, suffer, and still suffer from the ancient curse of God.